From Buddy Castenada @ Bipolar Buddy's Facebook Group (Feel free to share, or copy and paste and use your own name).

An Open Letter to the Spouses and Family Members of Individuals Living with Bipolar Disorder

Dear Loved Ones,

If you are reading this, it likely means that someone close to you—a spouse, a child, a parent, or a dear friend—is living with Bipolar Disorder. Whether it is Bipolar I, with its extreme highs and profound lows, or Bipolar II, marked by its cycles of hypomania and depression,

I want to acknowledge the journey you are on. It is not always easy, and at times, it can feel overwhelming.

You may have seen your loved one at their most vibrant—overflowing with energy, creativity, and ambition. You have also likely witnessed their darkest moments, where depression takes hold and makes even the simplest tasks feel impossible. You may have celebrated their successes and felt helpless during their struggles.

It is an emotional journey, one that demands patience, love, and understanding.

I want to take a moment to say: You are not alone.
Being a support system for someone with Bipolar Disorder can be challenging. The unpredictability, the mood swings, the impact on daily life—it all takes a toll. You may feel exhausted, frustrated, or even invisible at times. You may struggle to separate the person you love from the symptoms they battle.

You may wonder if things will ever stabilize. These feelings are valid, and it’s okay to acknowledge them.

But here’s something equally important to remember: Your love matters. Even in moments when it feels like you’re not getting through, your presence, your patience, and your compassion are making a difference.

Your support can help your loved one feel safe, understood, and encouraged in their journey toward stability and wellness. Even when they may not be able to express it, your efforts are seen, and they matter.

At the same time, please remember: You must take care of yourself, too. You cannot pour from an empty cup. It is essential that you set boundaries, seek support, and find time for your own well-being.

Therapy, support groups, and education about Bipolar Disorder can empower you to navigate this journey with greater confidence. It is not selfish to care for yourself—it is necessary.

Bipolar Disorder does not define your loved one, and it does not define your relationship with them. Treatment, medication, therapy, and a strong support system can help them lead fulfilling lives. There is hope, even in the hardest moments. Recovery and stability are possible, and with love, patience, and the right resources, a balanced life can be achieved.

To every spouse, parent, sibling, and friend who stands beside someone with Bipolar Disorder—you are appreciated. Your love and dedication are invaluable. You are seen, you are needed, and you are not alone.

With understanding and gratitude,
Buddy